I Kissed a Girl and I like it

Have you kissed a girl? If not then you might need to check this out!

Why More Girls Are Kissing Girls

“I kissed a girl…and I liked it!” When Katy Perry’s infamous ode to the girl crush first rocked the airwaves two years ago, it felt ballsy — shocking, even.

Maybe it was a little shocking when Sharon Stone did it in Basic Instinct in 1992. It felt ballsy when Jill Sobule sang about it in 1995. It was provocative when Neve Campbell and Denise Richards got it on in Wild Things in 1998. It felt kind of naughty in 1999 when Sarah Michelle Gellar gave Selma Blair “kissing lessons” in Cruel Intentions and Calista Flockhart made out with Lucy Liu on Ally McBeal. It was surprising when Inara (Morena Baccarin)’s client “The Councilor” turned out to be a woman on Firefly in 2002 but it was no doubt just a publicity stunt when Madonna kissed Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera at the VMAs in 2003. It was already a bit played out when Mischa Barton made out with Olivia Wilde on The O.C. in 2005 and it wasn’t even interesting by the time Sophia Bush and Brittany Snow kissed in John Tucker Must Die in 2006.

So it certainly wasn’t SHOCKING when Katy Perry merely sang about kissing a girl just two years later in 2008.

Now? Eh. In the past few months, a slew of female celebs have come forward about their sexual preferences. Lady Gaga, Megan Fox, and Fergie wear their bisexuality with pride

Listen, this is not something new. Girls have been kissing girls for centuries. This isn’t something that Cosmo just discovered. Maybe a lot of female celebs have come out as bisexual recently, but that doesn’t mean that bisexuality is new – it just means that they’re coming out. Maybe it’s a little bit more accepted now and therefore, easier for some people to be open about it, but lesbianism, bisexuality, same gender “experimentation” and straight-girls-making-out-for-attention is nothing new.

There are other female celebrities who are openly bisexual and have been for years. Actress Saffron Burrows publicly acknowledged her bisexuality in 1999. Model-actress Summer Altice has openly (and graphically!) discussed her same-sex experiences as far back as in 2002. Drew Barrymore, Angelina Jolie, and Margaret Cho have always been open about the fact that they have had experiences with women. Actress Bai Ling has been open about her bisexuality for a long time, as have Megan Mullally, Sandra Bernhard, Eve Ensler, Ione Skye, Sophie B. Hawkins, Ani DiFranco, and Meshell Ndegeocello.

But let’s go back even further… how ’bout Greta Garbo, Tallulah Bankhead, Josephine Baker or Louise Brooks? Women having sexual encounters with other women is nothing new.

Most recently, Anna Paquin told the world “I’m a bisexual” in a commercial for the I Give a Damn Campaign, which fights for marriage equality.

How refreshing of these starlets to bring their lady lust into the limelight — they’re giving other females an opportunity to open up about their own sexuality. “By coming forward like this, prominent celebrities make it comfortable for women who might see them as role models to discuss and explore their sexual feelings about other women,” says Amy Andre, author of Bisexual Health and executive director of San Francisco Pride.

IF IT FEELS GOOD… Of course, enjoying a girl-on-girl kiss every once in a while doesn’t mean you have to identify as bisexual. You could call it hetero-flexible…or don’t label it at all.

“There’s no exact definition of what bisexual means, so it’s really up to each individual,” says Stephanie Sanders, PhD, associate director and scientist at the Kinsey Institute. Some women experiment with another woman and still consider themselves straight; other women kiss females and label themselves bisexual.

So how do you know if your girl crush is actually something more? You can think a gal pal is gorgeous and want to hang with her all the time, but that doesn’t mean you want to be with her. “If you have always dated men and find yourself suddenly drawn to a certain woman, take some time to dissect your feelings,” says Jill Denton, a sex therapist in California.

Run a bath or cozy up on the couch with a glass of wine, and try imagining yourself in a relationship with someone of the same sex. If you can picture it clearly, you may have more than a girl crush.

“If you decide you are interested in women, how far you take it will be a very personal choice based on what you’re comfortable with,” Denton points out. Schedule some time with a trusted friend to help you hash out your feelings. If you’re truly freaked out by your feelings for another woman, you may want to talk to a therapist about it.

HIS PERSPECTIVE. What made Anna Paquin’s confession even more intriguing is that she’s engaged to Stephen Moyer. Did he think it was hot or was he bummed?

“You guy may be intimidated by your confession,” says William July, PhD, author of Understanding the Tin Man. “He’ll wonder if there might be something he can’t provide you with sexually.” If you’ve been with women before, put him at ease telling him that what you’re looking for is the right person for you, no matter the gender. Once he knows you consider the The (only) One, his worry will fade.

And isn’t there anything between the two extremes of ‘hot’ and ‘bummed’? Basically a man can only view a woman’s bisexuality in one of two ways: as a turn-on or as a threat. What about just accepting it as part of who she is and leaving it at that? Why does it matter what he thinks anyway? Well, yeah okay, obviously it does matter what he thinks – but if he thinks you being who you are is something to be “bummed” about then he can suck it.

Also, why does the author assume that there’s a guy in the picture in the first place or that ultimately “The One” will be a guy? Maybe you don’t consider him “The One”… maybe “The One” will be a woman? We don’t think there’s anything wrong with women who identify as straight having a little fun with other women and still identifying as straight. Just like we don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a lesbian or being bisexual or shedding labels and categories altogether. But it’s sort of stupid that Cosmo still ignores the fact that actual real lesbians exist.

To them, girl-on-girl action is – at most – a sign that you might be bisexual (but probably not, you’re probably just “hetero-flexible” so don’t worry, your man won’t mind). Nowhere do they even address the possibility that you might end up identifying as a lesbian. In the same way that kissing girls doesn’t automatically mean you’re gay, dating men doesn’t automatically mean you aren’t. Everyone should have the freedom to come up with their own conclusions about themselves and their identities… but it’s just kind of interesting that in an article about girls who kiss other girls, they never once mention lesbians.

Do lesbians not read Cosmo? Maybe Cosmo should take a few minutes to acknowledge that there are a lot of different kinds of women out there, instead of talking down to women about whether not it’s okay to kiss girls.

Source: http://evilslutopia.com/2010/07/why-more-girls-are-kissing-girls.html